Types of Siblings
Which type of sibling are you. Do you have an “I Love You” sibling story or an “I Hate You” brother or sister story ?
Based on research that we have done on siblings, we have come up with six styles of brothers and sisters relationships. Choose the one you think fits you and your sibling.
Beloved siblings care deeply about each other, see each other often and regularly. You think of each other as best friends.
Buddy siblings are like beloved siblings, but the caring between you is feet deep instead of yards deep. You don’t see them every day but you really like them. They are not your best friends.
Reliable siblings are close but usually live far way. You do not see or make contact with each other frequently. You have strong family bonds and this sibling connection can be clamped into place in a family crisis, and then released when things go back to normal. Reliable siblings are like air mattresses. They can be blown up at any time.
Listless siblings have little interaction with each other as adults. You are indifferent to each other. If there were a traffic light for siblings, they would be the blinking yellow light. You do not show much interest in each other and are not sure exactly how you feel about each other. You suspect something happened in your past to make you so uninvolved.
Seething siblings are full of anger. You have a hurt from childhood from a sibling that you feel deeply. You ignore him or her; don’t have much contact except perhaps on required holiday visits. You are not physical with your anger, but it sometimes seethes inside. Brothers and sisters who experienced strong sibling rivalry with no violence are in this category.
Irate siblings have a problem with a sibling about something that happened when you were younger. It may have involved aggression or violence. Cain and Abel are called to mind. Brothers and sisters who experienced sibling rivalry can fall into this category if violence and aggression come into play.