Change Your Stressful Sibling Story

Change is one of the steepest slopes we climb. It means going against a lifelong pattern.

If you have appetite for change about a brother or sister, the light bulb has gone off

about your old sibling relationship.

Even if they have a sibling “I Hate You” story, many siblings believe that their brother or sister is important enough to try to get to the bottom of their angry or sad feelings. Siblings mean so much because they share a sameness that can give us a feeling of comfort. If we are blood siblings, we come from the same gene pool. This sometimes gives us an inner feeling of unity. This common DNA can symbolize the naturalness and rightness of genetic bonds. That’s why genealogy is so important to some of us. Wouldn’t you think about changing your, sibling , “ I Hate You Story.”

Siblings can share class and race or the same cultural heritage. You can brag that your family is from the same upper class that knows what to do with all the silver next to the plates when you sit down to eat. Or you can be proud that you and your siblings share the same racial background, such as African American or Hmong. You can say your family is from the same cultural region of the world. For instance, you are all Italian so your family makes the best pasta dish, or your family is Japanese so you all honor elders.

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About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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