If you are a parent who wants to steer clear of sibling rivalry among your kids -involve extended family. It does take a village
If Mom’s and Dad’s reach out to nearby family, they can seriously downgrade present and even future sibling rivalry and strife. This can be an investment in helping your kids avoid midlife brother and sister “I Hate You” stories.
Family like aunts, uncles, grandparents, great-grandparents-or any blood or non-blood relative or close friends -can help you bear the heavy load of parenting. Especially engaging the support of older family members like grandparents (who today can be pretty vital sixty-year-olds) can be a great hand up with this heavy lift.
Extended family can help with one sibling while Mom or Dad pay special attention to another child. Family can pitch in by having one sibling come to their house after school, offer help with homework, drive kids to school and after school activities or take one sibling for a weekend. If one sibling could go to a grandparent’s after school and the other to another extended family member’s home , this will go the distance for making them both feel special and reduce competition.
This extended family involvement will allow you share the burden of childrearing and pay equal attention to kids. In today’s’ strapped economy and single parent environment, this is a great bank to borrow from – thus reducing the deficit of sibling rivalry.