It Takes A Village- Ask Extended Family to Help With Sibling Rivalry

If you are a parent who wants to steer clear of sibling rivalry among your kids -involve extended family. It does take a village

If Mom’s and Dad’s  reach out to nearby family, they can seriously downgrade present and even future sibling rivalry and strife. This can be an investment in  helping your kids avoid midlife brother and sister “I Hate You” stories.

Family like aunts, uncles, grandparents, great-grandparents-or any blood or non-blood relative or close  friends -can help you bear the heavy load of parenting. Especially engaging the support of older family members like grandparents (who today can be pretty vital sixty-year-olds) can be a great  hand up with this heavy lift.

Extended family can help with one sibling while Mom or Dad  pay special attention to another child. Family can pitch in by having one sibling  come to their house after school, offer help with homework, drive kids to school and after school activities or  take one sibling for a weekend.  If one sibling could go to a grandparent’s after school and the other to another extended family member’s home , this will go the distance for making them both feel special and reduce competition.

This extended family involvement will allow you  share the burden of childrearing  and pay equal attention to kids. In today’s’ strapped economy and single parent environment, this is a great bank to borrow from – thus reducing  the deficit of sibling rivalry.

About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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