Siblings Injuring Each Other ?- Avoid Future ” I Hate You Story”

How do you avoid future sibling rivalry and “ I Hate You” stories as a parent? Intervene immediately when a child hits or injures another child.
Don’t allow guilt to build up or a wound to fester and create a future “I Hate You” story in your own child. Untended lesions turn into “I Hate You” stories that may have to be dealt with decades later. You as the parent could be a villain in that sibling tale. Avoid the future toxic narrative thread by talking to both siblings right away, offering consequences if one child injured another, but also letting the siblings know that the wound is being swabbed and bandaged by you, the parents, in the here and now. Settle the argument and heal emotional lesions by talking about what happened, not just punishing one child. Discuss the feelings that prompted the injury in the first place to expunge the negative feelings. Perhaps change your parenting methods to rearrange sibling interaction s a result of what is talked about.

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Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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