Do You Have A Child Who is the Favorite? Danger Zone for Families

How can young parents avoid a sibling “ I Hate you Story “ with their kids? .Make every child your favorite.
Parents need to be impartial in every way, although this is a very difficult skill to learn with children. It is inevitable that moms and dads will feel differently about offspring who have varying needs, dispositions, and places in the family.
But favoritism is one of the loudest alarm bells that leads to jealousy, sibling wounds, and “I Hate You” stores being formed like hurricanes and then wreaking havoc between siblings for decades. So parents have to practice being fair and impartial every day, even though it is so difficult.
Find a reason to tell each child he or she is special—my first, my boy, my daughter, my youngest—but spread the love equally. Having favorites creates giant “I Hate You” stories. If you praise one child, make a conscious effort to praise all the rest.

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About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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