Are you a sibling who is dreading Thanksgiving?

Is your family gathering in the planning stages of turkey day and you are already thinking of ditching to avoid a sibling?
Holidays can sometimes trigger old brother or sister hurts that never healed. Joy to the World can turn into something from Black Sabbath. Perhaps you’re an adult child avoids your midlife siblings because there’s “bad blood” from childhood . Maybe you steer clear of Mom’s holiday dinner so you can skip seeing sisters and brothers who gouged childhood wounds. The scar has built up over decades and you dive for the alcohol whenever they re around.
Perhaps there just was not enough love in your rickety family nest, making you and you sibling scramble for the few caring crumbs. As a kid your brother could have slugged you behind Mom’s back. Maybe you had sister got the new prom dress when you did Goodwill. Divorce may have shattered your family leaving you with two houses, two beds, two sets of parents, and stepsiblings who fought for your parent’s diminished love. No matter what your grievance story – holidays are when you might want to think about forgiveness.

There are many reasons why this is a great time to consider absolution for your siblings.

About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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