If you scored miserably on the sibling I Hate You Story test , http://momlovesyoubest.com/2010/12/11/take-this-test-to-find-out-if-you-have-a-sibling-i-hate-you-story/, posted in my December 11 blog , you may want to consider forgiveness before or after -you tackle the holiday revels .
If not , once again, following the festive gathering – it won’t be just an OD of cocktails that make you queasy . If you spend yet another holiday gathering angry at your brother or sister, your eggnog will be spiked with acid feelings of your own concoction.
In any clan, how act as a sibling is passed down to our children. We model Mom and Dad’s behavior . The month of December is a good time to think about not handing that sibling rage and blame down to your own kids.
If you have older parents, what you may unearth when you and your siblings show up this cheerful occasion – are deteriorating aging kin
Ready to put coal in your stocking- with
Unpaid bills laying around
Clutter in a home that was once always neat
Facing these holiday red flags , you and you your midlife siblings have to quickly form a team.
If there are big choices looming, like how to get Mom and Dad to accept help, how to pay for it, which adult child will take the lead you have to work together- forgiveness is needed now. If you are still angry with your sibs for childhood wounds, it makes it harder and harder for all of you to pull together the family squad.
Consider the message of the Christmas Carol”, by the great Charles Dickens, who knew a thing or two about repentance ? Find out if you have an I Hate You Story http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0NkQdNMZvSY on my You Tube Channel