Are Your Bloods, Half’s and Steps in an Endless War ?

 

Have sibling problems over the holidays  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXfoQcR5y3c

bloated your mental bandwidth?

 

Did your  blended family mix like oil and water over Christmas or Hanukah? Do your blood children have a  strained relationship with your  stepchildren? Do your  half siblings  hate  their whole siblings? Are your  bloods, half’s and steps in an endless war ?

If you are Generation X  and your parents were divorced-  you might look at  the changes made by your  baby boomer parents –  how they approached marriage and family relationships. These changes were a domino effect cascading down on Generation X and Generation Y,  leaving  them  one step from counseling or in it  .

If  you are  Generation X kid who grew up with divorce- did you yourself get divorced?

If your teenagers or young children (bloods, steps and half’s )  are heading down the road to writing their own sibling  “I Hate You” story, make a New Year’s Resolution

Write a paragraph or two about the generational changes that occurred in your own family that might have contributed to the strife between your own children -leading to sibling  “I Hate You” stories.

If you are a baby boomer  grandmother or grandfather  watching your  children grandchildren reel from divorce-, write a paragraph about how the generational values, both positive and negative, how they had  an impact on your children and grandchildren and perhaps how you would like to change them.

Consider  sibling forgiveness http://www.amazon.com/Mom-Loves-You-Best-Relationships/dp/0882823213 as an approach to the New Year.

 

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About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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