Beloved siblings like the Weinstein brothers made the news in the Oscars. The Weinstein’s have been through thick and thin and have come out siblings who support each other even in the worst of times.
What is a beloved sibling? Beloved siblings care deeply about each other, see each other often and regularly. You think of each other as best friends.
You were schooled as children in loyalty and were brought up in a family culture that treated sibling wounds right away and gave a clear message that brother or sister allegiance and sibling devotion were a major part of the family rules.
Beyond the shared cultural background and genetic make up, beloved siblings can share the same secret language and common memory. They have an intimate knowledge that only siblings who were children together will know. For example, all the siblings in a family will know that icy bridge that scared them all, when they had to walk over it 4 or 5 to get to school and kindergarten.
Beloved siblings can share this secret language with each other through shorthand that might be just a glance or a secret word. They may have different personalities and be separated by years but this special language and common symbols give them a unique tongue that only siblings can really understand. This comes from their collective life together as children where they can reference certain events though one word or gesture. Gloria Steinem reminisced “ I can say Vernon’s ginger ale to my sister and she will understand.
Or it could be Dave saying,” We crawled underneath the coffee table and his siblings will know this is the charged phrase for Mom having yet another baby. So as adults’ age there can be huge gaps and distances as they grow older but this pivotal beginning of life and intimacy gives them the ability to revive their relationship even if separated by years and miles.
Are you a beloved sibling or one the other types that might have sibling I Hate You stories? Find out what kind of sibling you are.