Raise Young Siblings Without Warfare-Build Team Spirit

As children a siblings need to learn how to act as a team As they get older, their team will have to be reconstituted many times—for rituals, for rites of passage, and to take care of aging parents- which will be you if you are a baby boomer. They will even need to teach your future grandchildren how to work as a team.

Teach them how to act as a team now when they are young to learn social relationships among themselves at an early age. Look at who will be the leader and the followers. Is there a fair leader, and does she or he treat followers fairly?

Team spirit among siblings is a critical tool. A generational team spirit was created by the Depression  era siblings. Because of the crushing economic woes of the 1930, siblings grew up tutored in team spirit and loyalty to each other by their Greatest Generation parents. This played out in a distinct loyalty as they reached retirement and continued to age. Their parents’ 1930s emphasis on one for all and all for one lasted a lifetime. Creating a team spirit is just as important now among siblings. Working together teaches siblings to share, to delegate responsibility, and to really appreciate each other. This cuts down on sibling rivalry and squabbles and builds a deep bond that the siblings have for a lifetime.

Gayanne and Amos’s are Gen X parents with a new blended family were certainly in need of team spirit. With new stepbrothers Randy and Roger sleeping in a carved-up room, and Roger and Vera skirmishing so much that Roger was injured, this group needed a way to act as a cohesive unit with team strength.

Divorced baby boomer grandmother Janet and her former husband grandfather Jack banded together again after decades of divorce to help this family achieve family cohesiveness. They had team spirit and modeled it to their children and grandchildren

By putting together the family garage sale, giving each child a role, allowing the kids to reap the financial rewards from some of their own items, allowing them to plan the sale together and letting Gayanne and Amos have a role, Janet and Jack evoked team spirit. Just as they displayed team spirit in spite of their divorce, they hoped these warring siblings, who were banded together not by choice but by remarriage, would learn a way to work together as a unit.

So try to evoke team spirit with your kids by planning any event, doing things a family and maybe even with your extended family like divorced parents.

 

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About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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