Gen X teach you’re your children that as brothers and sisters – they are bonded forever. Siblings are the longest relationship of your whole life. They are with you in the nursery and are still there in your old age. They are a deeper relationship than your spouse or your own children as they are always in the same timeframe as you.
As parents we have an exhausting job description that includes referee, psychologist, sergeant at arms, coach, teacher, and nurse. One of the most important roles we can have is as a teacher to our siblings about their lifelong bond. They not only need to understand that this bond is for life but also need to know how to keep that joint glued together. Life tears at the fabric of siblings and makes them break away from each other. At times these wounds turn to “I Hate You” stories.
Recall our Greatest Generation parents and their kids during the Depression. Moms and dads of the economically ravaged 1930s taught their children that the failure to be good sisters and brothers was not a family option. They had to be loyal siblings to help the family survive.
That may not be true today, but you can teach your siblings how to have a team spirit, how to gather in a family meeting ,when they need to discuss critical family topics, how to observe family rituals together, and the many other ways to make “I Love You” stories suggested in this book. They will not only know siblings are forever but also have to tools to avoid future “I Hate You” stories.