Serena and Venus Williams are in the news and on the court with sibling rivalry.
Sometimes, as with these great, beautiful women champions, sibling rivalry is a good thing. But as parents or even as a sibling sometimes it is juts the pits.
Do you want your kids to grow up without sibling rivalry? Do you want to end this sibling downer with your own abrother or sister?
In my new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships, I use two middle-aged brothers named Mike and Daryl. Now in their 50’s they are embroiled in midlife siblings wars. Where did it start? Their mother and dad compared the brothers from almost day one. Constantly pitting the two kids against each other, their mom and Dad, crowed that Mike got his first tooth first, walked earlier, and was smarter in school than Daryl. As the second child and never feeling he was the “ favorite”, Daryl, was filled with green-eyed with jealousy towards his brother that lasted a lifetime
The boys were out to hurt each other and battled over everything from the TV to who sat in the front seat while Dad drove to the dump. They slugged it out many a day usually till Daryl cried. As the jealous second son, Daryl was at war with Mike half his childhood. Now that they are adults, when he learns that Mike bought a new Ford Super Duty 250 truck, Daryl wants to barge into the dealership and pick up a Super Duty 350.
As midlife siblings, when Daryl saw Mike he was friendly but always felt strain. Deep down inside these feelings of sibling rivalry sprung from comparisons the parents made when they were little. If you want to avoid Mike and Daryl’s fate for your kids, don’t pit one against the other.