On Father’s day, it’s great to remember how families today need to involve Dad’s more. My daughter Kali just gave birth to twins .So I would like to dedicate this blog to Dad’s of twins and offer a few important things that Dad’s need to do to support twin siblings.
To say the least –if you are the father of twins, you need to give to extra support to your wife- much more than you do with the birth of a single baby. Raising twins is grueling in the beginning- 24/ 7 with two babies, two feedings, two diaperings, huge loads of laundry and two exhausted parents.
Giving birth to twins, turns your life upside down. If you are or your wife are a type A -get ready to switch to type C or D. Twins hit your house like an earthquake.
Although things do get easier as time goes on it is important to start off in the right way. Through tension and fog of bleary-eyed stress- there is a very good rule of thumb for Dad’s of twins. Both the Dad and Mom must show respect for each other, remember they love each other and work as a team.
My daughter and her husband Dan play tag team with their new twins Dylan and Liam. Kali cares for them all day with the support of her father and myself- who have moved to LA temporarily. Dan cares for them as soon as he comes home from work and with the help of his parent’s who come over most nights.
Then he takes most of the care at night, supported by Kali ‘s Dad and myself and sometimes Kali. You need 4 arms to manage twins at this stage. Both Dan and Kali put those schedules together as a team and change them together as more or less family are available.
Now that’s just if you simply have twins. In spite of the tsunami that has hit your life, if you have new twins, plus other kids, you as a Dad have to offer the whole young family, a secure. nurturing environment.
It can test any relationship to the limit. So Dad’s need to keep romance alive and strengthen their relationship as a couple by keeping channels of communication open through all the stress. Children learn from this openness and gain respect for themselves and others by the way their parents interact.
So happy Father’s day to all Dad’s but especially new Dads of twin siblings and congratulations to my son in law Dan for being such a wonderful new Dad.