Twin Sibling baby Books- One or Two?

 

As I have blogged before, my daughter Kali, co-author of Mom Loves You Best  gave birth to twins this spring. She just called to get photos I took of my two grandson’s first bath. She’s making baby book for each boy. Unfortunately I only had pictures of Dylan’s so she’s looking for Liam’s.

Life felt like the remains a tornado in their first two months. With everyone’s sleep deprived condition, it was a miracle cameras were pointed towards the tub.  I believe the batteries in mine failed half way through.

The tale of this blog is that all siblings, especially twins should have their own baby book. The sweetness of the two boys in their birth announcement, bundled together in white gauze, captures everyone. There is something about twiness or doubles that make us swoon.

Yet what you have to remember is five, ten fifteen years later those kids will be individuals and want to reclaim their own personal beginnings. A parent’s job and in a smaller way grandparent’s task, is to care about each child’s growth as a separate person.

Each sibling- whether twins or singletons – needs their own baby book that records their initial bath, their first visit to the doctor, tooth, walk and chronicles their growth.

They also need their own videos. I have a Flip Share video and so does my daughter .As I am a long distance grandparent, I am missing them change each day and week.

So, I asked that my daughter do a video of each boy and of course them together -weekly so I could see them grow. I have no idea whether she will have the time with twins – they are still 24/7 with some parental sleep for mixed in. That’s where I could come in if I lived nearby.

 

In these times of financial stress divorce and extended families, grandparents can really her support young parents. Most mothers’ need to return to work a few months after birth. With every new child there is less time to do a baby book and maybe 2nd and 3rd kids never got one.

Grandparents  can been a wonderful resource for making baby books . They can make them on Kodak gallery for busy Mom’s. They can rummage through old boxes of photos and mementos and scan picture to recreate them in scrapbooks, if the baby books were never put together. .

So with twins, make two baby books and if that’s too much for you as the parent of twins, ask extended family to help. With single children if you did not make one for the 2nd and 3rd. child , ask grandma grandpa or extended family to help put the delayed and needed baby book together and  finally assembled.

 

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About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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