I was born when my World War II father was in Stalag 17 . My mother’s favorite holiday song was “ I’ll Be Home for Christmas “ .When I hear Judy Garland sing this, I still cry.
“Meet Me in St Louis” an iconic Christmas film , was the top pick from NPR holiday movies last year.
The film’s modern holiday carol, warbles through a Christmas scene when tragedy is about to strike. It’s 1903, the St. Louis World’s Fair was about to open, just as Garland and three Smith sisters were about to move to New York — a relocation all the siblings dreaded .
Johnny Depp is another victim of Christmas, as mutant Edward Scissorhands, a Frankenstein fictive sibling. On Christmas Eve ,the mutant blade- fingered Depp almost fits in with his adoptive family, including sister Winona Rider, then misery strikes
For many of us the family road home for the holidays is very rutty and for some the path has gaping potholes. It can remind us of conflicts we had between our siblings as kids that ruptured our relationship. Because the damage done by a sister or brother years ago there can be a deep gash in our mind sometimes it never heals. In fact, that old wound from a sibling may still fester and ooze enough to lead us to say we believe we don’t want to see the family on the holidays..
We feel we hate our siblings for many different reasons. The chief complaint that lurks in our mind is that Mom or Dad favored them over us. She got the new prom dress for her high school celebration, and a few years later we ended up with her hand-me-down.. Dad sent him to a great four-year college, and we were sent to a community college near home. She was the baby so got to grow up with late curfews and loose rules, when Mom and Dad were unbearably strict with the rest of us. He was the oldest and Mom needed him to take care of the bunch of us, so she let him boss us around. He was the stepsibling who moved in and took over half our room.
That can all come back again with Christmas gifts that don’t seem fair-once again . Whatever happened it can all come back over the holidays and then some.
Check out these iconic holiday films and see if they either prepare you for the festive gathering or make you feel better after the annual family breakdown.
Also check out forgivenss so that maybe this holiday season and the next your siblings and you can celebrate without the fears of Edward Scissorhands or the poor doomed Judy Garland .