Are Your Bloods, Half’s and Steps in an Endless War-Pre Holidays ?

Have sibling problems over the  coming holidays  bloated your mental bandwidth?

Did your  blended family mix like oil and water over Thanksgiving?

Do you now expect by Christmas or Hanukah they will be the Sharks and the Jets  straight out of West Side Story?

Do your blood children have a strained relationship with your stepchildren ?

Do your half siblings hate their whole siblings? Are your bloods and  steps in an endless war ?
If yes is the answer to any of these- approach the holidays in a new way.

Write a paragraph or two about the generational changes that occurred in your own family that might have contributed to the stain between your kids and extended family.

For example, if you are Generation X kid who grew up with divorce- did you yourself get divorced? If you’re a baby boomer did your own divorce create steps and bloods who lost half of their room and most of their faith in marriage?

If you are a Baby Boomer  grandmother or grandfather -watching your children grandchildren reel from divorce and new stepparents- write a paragraph about how your generational values, both positive and negative, had an impact on your children and grandchildren. Think about how you would like to change those values as a grandparent , during the holidays .

Consider sibling forgiveness as an approach to the Christmas and Hanukah .

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About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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