Have sibling problems over the coming holidays bloated your mental bandwidth?
Did your blended family mix like oil and water over Thanksgiving?
Do you now expect by Christmas or Hanukah they will be the Sharks and the Jets straight out of West Side Story?
Do your blood children have a strained relationship with your stepchildren ?
Do your half siblings hate their whole siblings? Are your bloods and steps in an endless war ?
If yes is the answer to any of these- approach the holidays in a new way.
Write a paragraph or two about the generational changes that occurred in your own family that might have contributed to the stain between your kids and extended family.
For example, if you are Generation X kid who grew up with divorce- did you yourself get divorced? If you’re a baby boomer did your own divorce create steps and bloods who lost half of their room and most of their faith in marriage?
If you are a Baby Boomer grandmother or grandfather -watching your children grandchildren reel from divorce and new stepparents- write a paragraph about how your generational values, both positive and negative, had an impact on your children and grandchildren. Think about how you would like to change those values as a grandparent , during the holidays .
Consider sibling forgiveness as an approach to the Christmas and Hanukah .