Visiting elderly family members over the holidays can sometimes trigger old hurts that never healed. Perhaps you’re an adult child who doesn’t see your parents on a regular basis because there is “bad blood” between you and your mom or dad. Maybe you just don’t get together with your family on holidays so you can avoid seeing sisters and brothers who inflicted childhood wounds. The scar has built up over decades and you cringe at the pockmarks every time you look in the mirror. Maybe there just was not enough love in your rickety family nest. Your mom may not have been Clare Huxtable, on the Cosby Show.
Perhaps your father was downright abusive, your Mom a nutcase who left you in a sinking boat as a kid. Perhaps your brother was pushy or slugged you behind Mom’s back. Maybe you had sisters who got much the new prom dress when you did Goodwill. Divorce may have shattered that family nest like a hurricane leaving you with a dual life of two houses, two beds, two sets of parents, stepsiblings, left you a and a rudderless childhood.
There are many reasons why it is a great time to consider absolution for your parents or siblings.
If you have a sibling ” I hate you story” – this holiday season is a time when you might want to think about forgiveness.
But first take a look at the red flags below. Check out if you really have a sibling ” I Hate You” story.
Red Flag Number One
The first red flag you can see pointing to a sibling “I Hate You” story is that you repeat this brother or sister story over and over again.
Red Flag Number Two
The second red flag you can see pointing to an “I Hate You” story is if something transpired in the story that you did not want to take place. In your story does something come to pass that you did not want to happen?
Red Flag Number Three
The third red flag pointing to an “I Hate You “ story is if you believe are the victim in the story and your sibling is the villain. You are the helpless person, and your sibling has all the power. Your “I Hate You” story not only makes you feel like the injured party but also allows other people who know you to see you as a victim.
Red Flag Number Four
The fourth red flag you can see pointing to an “I Hate You” story is if you think about this story repeatedly.
Red Flag Number Five
The fifth red flag you can see pointing to an “I Hate You “ story is based on types of sibling If you are a listless, seething or irate sibling you may have an “I Hate You” story.
If any of these red flags point to you, there is a good chance you have a sibling” I Hate You “story. Before the holiday gathering of this coming two weeks, you might consider taking steps towards forgiveness and letting this “ I Hate you” story go.