Have Post Holiday Blues About Fractured Family Rules?

Did you just spend the holidays with your dysfunctional family and wonder- how did we get this way? Want to make a New Year’s resolution to change the rules that put you through such annual misery?

Family rules about how siblings and family behave are passed down from generation to generation. Look at your grandparents and parent’s era and family laws to find the key to those miserable holidays.
If you watch  AMC’s Mad Men , you might find your parent’s or grandparents set of rules in Don and Betty’s Draper’s era- the silent generation
Don Draper is modern depiction of a typical post early 1950’s Dad. The wildly popular main character in Mad Men fought during the Korean Conflict and came out of that conflict determined to ruthlessly scale the 50’s corporate ladder. Both his bizarre TV plotline experiences during the Korean War and his tortured Depression era childhood created the iconic mid -century television plot of Mad Men.

Don Draper’s icy wife, Betty though a graduate of prestigious Bryn Mawr College does what 1940’s and 50’s wives did with degrees, plot how to get married. She ended up a fur model that then raised a brood of children, while smoking and drinking through pregnancy and keeping in runway shape for Don.

For young women like Betty Draper, a career position was seen as un -attainable. Creating your own nuclear family remained a primary focus. Loyalty to the American way was expected. Most people who came from this generation were affluent quiet, conventional, happy members of the post-World War II corporate culture.

Children were seen not heard- like poor Sally Draper. Mom Betty has a nasty strained relationship with her three kids, particularly with her poor daughter Sally. Silent Generation kids mutely accepted what their parents said, yet Sally becomes a circa James Dean and Natalie Wood rebel With Sally’s buddy preteen rebellion, Don’s cheating and Don & Betty’s ripping sheet of a divorce in the series you can see the beginning dissolution of the family and the beginning of the Baby Boomers  Sally Draper and the 1960’s then shattered all family rules.

Find out more about Don Draper’s or maybe your family’s Silent Generation rules in my You Tube segment on Mad Men- The Silent Generation

About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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