PTSD Sibling Post Holiday Therapy Needed?Take This Test.

Did you spend the holiday with family then wake with a very snarky emotional hangover? If your headache’s so bad that no alka seltzer soothes the psychic pain , it may be time to look into the roots of your family script.

If the main villain in the family tragedy is a sibling or step sibling – here’s a post holiday quiz to see if you need help.

Did your brother or sister do something long ago that’s still  a weeping  wound in your mind? Does it keep you apart-  or on other sides of the room- especially awkward- during the holiday season when families were  flocking together under mounds of discarded wrapping paper.

Find out if have a sibling ” I Hate You ” Maybe you did not think you needed this test a few weeks ago . Post holiday – if you know you need it now- here it is again.

Take the test below.

1. Have you told your sibling story more than once to the same person?

2.  Do you play the sibling events more than two times in a day in your mind?

3. Do you find yourself speaking to the sibling who hurt you even when the person is not there?

4. Have you made a commitment to yourself to tell the sibling  story without being upset then found yourself agitated anyway?

5. Is the sibling who hurt you a central character in your story?

6. When you tell your sibling  story does it remind you of other painful things that happened to you?

7. Does the  sibling story focus primarily on your pain and what you lost?

8. In your sibling  story is there a villain?

9. Have you made a commitment not to tell the  sibling story again and then broken your vow?

10. Do you look for other people with similar sibling  problems to tell your story to?

11. Has your sibling  story stayed the same over time?

12. Have you checked the details of your  sibling story for accuracy?

If you answer yes to five or more the  questions, there is a good chance you have a sibling  I Hate You “ story. To end brother or sister  blood step or half sibling  blood feud  and make peace make forgiveness as a gift to yourself.

Try to make a New Year’s resolution  to take the – ten steps to forgiveness  to heal yourself and hopefully make the next holiday PTSD free.

About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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