Are you a Gen X parent with young children or teens who fought like cats and dogs over the holidays? Do you recall battling with your own siblings when you were young? Maybe you still do -or just did again- over the holidays.
You may be worried that someday your kids will lob their own grenades at each other with the battle cry “Mom loved you best.” If you do not want to be that toxic mom or dad yourself, and avoid those scars on your kids, post the New Year, you might look into raising your kids to avoid life long wounds.
Parents are like turtles. They carry the carapace of their childhood sibling clashes with them into their own parenting. Moms and dads re-create their own brother and sister issues- once again- with their own children. How?? – With old family rules. Your kids may well re-create your own historical parental conflicts and rules.
Learn to nurture your family in a way to help your children avoid future wounding attacks on each other
Help your children work together as a better team for the rest of their lives. Find your old family rules from when you were a kid -to help you better parent your own kids and guide them to a better sibling relationship with better rules.
Look into your family rules- your original family and present families rules – and see how you can break those rules.
Find out how you can be a parent who reaches out for support by involving Dad’s and extended family more to support you
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Make each child special by reaching out to extended family to help you spend special time with them and even create that baby book that never got made because you were so busy raising multiple children or even blood and step siblings.
More tips to come on raising your family without sibling rivalry- as a united team.