Want to make a New Years Resolution to raise your kids as closer siblings ?

Are you a Gen X parent with young children or teens who fought like cats and dogs over the holidays? Do you recall battling with your own siblings when you were young? Maybe you still do -or just did again- over the holidays.

You may be worried that someday your kids will lob their own grenades at each other with the battle cry “Mom loved you best.” If you do not want to be that toxic mom or dad yourself, and avoid those scars on your kids, post the New Year, you might look into raising your kids to avoid life long wounds.

Parents are like turtles. They carry the carapace of their childhood sibling clashes with them into their own parenting. Moms and dads re-create their own brother and sister issues- once again- with their own children. How?? – With old family rules.  Your kids may well re-create your own historical parental conflicts and rules.

Learn to nurture your family in a way to help your children avoid future wounding attacks on each other

Help your children work together as a better team for the rest of their lives. Find your old family rules from when you were a kid -to help you better parent your own kids and guide them to a better sibling relationship with better rules.

Look into your family rules- your original family and present families rules – and see how you can break those rules.

Find out how you can be a parent who reaches out for support by involving Dad’s and extended family more    to support you

more to support you

Make each child special  by reaching out to extended family to help you spend special time with them and even create that baby book that never got made because you were so busy raising multiple children or even blood and step siblings.

More tips to come on raising your family without sibling rivalry- as a united team.

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About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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