Are you a Generation X Mom or Dad trying to raise kids without sibling rivalry? Here is a tip get real help from the “modern” extended family.
Share the load. If one sibling could go to a grandparent’s after school and the other to another extended family member, this will go the distance for making all kids feel special. Sharing the burden lifts a bit of the heavy load of parenting in a two-income economy, where Mom’s and Dad’s have two sometimes three jobs to keep a family together.
Ask for help. Having more than just a parent pay attention to each individual child reduces sibling clashes. It also builds bonds with your baby boomer parents if you are Gen X. Even if your baby boomer parents are divorced, reach out to both of them plus your stepparents.
Asking for support is critical. Tap into extended family living nearby, like aunts, uncles, grandparents, great-grandparents, or any blood or non-blood relative or friend who will help you bear this intense weight of parenting. The extra individual attention to each child can reduce present and future sibling rivalry, strife, and future midlife sibling “I Hate You” stories. How –it makes each child feel special and gives it critical individual attention.
Winning the support of older family members, like baby boomer grandparents, who today can be pretty vital sixty-year-olds, can be a giant hand up with this heavy lift. If relatives or friends could each spend individual time with each of your kids after school or on weekends, this extended family care will allow you to share the overwhelm of childrearing. It reduces sibling rivalry by helping each child feel like someone’s favorite.
Like many of Gen X, if you yourself are divorced and remarried- you may have half or step siblings . You then have double the reason to reach out for help and double the extended family to help you.
Having more than just a Mom and Dad pay attention to each child reduces sibling clashes. It also builds bonds with your Baby Boomer parents if you are Gen X. Even if your Baby boomer parents are divorced, reach out to both of them and your stepparents.
In this economy, Gen X parents need all help they can get.