Celebrations, (like Father’s Day coming up) Mother’s Day, Hanukah, Christmas, and Thanksgiving – any holiday— can be a nightmare with adult siblings. You have to show up, yet you prepare for the daggers – either wielded by you as a sibling or pointed at you throat by a disenfranchised sister or brother.
Here are some tips.
1) It is a party not a family meeting. If you want to talk about personal issues, make a date to get together with your angry sister/brother.
2) Remember that it is father day not all about you. Keep a positive attitude for the sake of your aging parent
3) Attempt to get all your siblings to plan an activity ahead jointly to work on a team spirit. A photo album for dad that you can all share pictures in ((Quick Kodak Gallery closing down)
4) Call ahead as a team effort to arrange the sharing of the food for the meal, if it is at someone’s home. Call every family member. Do not exclude. Again to build a team effort.
5) Call ahead and arrange to split the bill if at a restaurant – ahead of time- again team effort and no embarrassing credit cards bargaining at the table that only brings on more fights.
6) If you have kids, pool their talent and have them make things for grandpa. Handmade gifts are a grandparent’s biggest treasures- a card with baby’s handprint.
7) If you have an aging parent call your siblings and share gifts that are helpful for aging Dads
8)Check out parent care on line tools so if you have an aging parent you can arrange care between siblings on line, after the holiday get together- not at it.