Eight Tips For Father’s Day Celebrations To Keep It Sibling Stress Free

Celebrations, (like Father’s Day coming up) Mother’s Day, Hanukah, Christmas, and Thanksgiving – any holiday— can be a nightmare with adult siblings. You have to show up, yet you prepare for the daggers – either wielded by you as a sibling or pointed at you throat by a disenfranchised sister or brother.

Here are some tips.

1) It is a party not a family meeting. If you want to talk about personal issues, make a date to get together with your angry sister/brother.

2) Remember that it is father day not all about you. Keep a positive attitude for the sake of your aging parent

 

3) Attempt to get all your siblings to plan an activity ahead jointly to work on a   team spirit. A photo album for dad that you can all share pictures in ((Quick Kodak Gallery  closing down)

 

4) Call ahead as a team effort to arrange the sharing of the food for the meal, if it is at someone’s home. Call every family member. Do not exclude. Again to build a team effort.

 

5) Call ahead and arrange to split the bill if at a restaurant – ahead of time- again team effort and no embarrassing credit cards bargaining at the table that only brings on more fights.

 

6) If you have kids, pool their talent and have them make things for grandpa. Handmade gifts are a grandparent’s biggest treasures- a card with baby’s handprint.

 

7) If you have an aging parent call your siblings and share gifts that are helpful for aging Dads

 

8)Check out parent care on line tools so if you have an aging parent you can arrange care between siblings on line, after the holiday get together- not at it.

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About momlovesyoubest

Cathy Cress holds an MSW in Aging from U.C. Berkeley. Her new book Mom Loves You Best, Forgiving and Forging Sibling Relationships , New Horizon Press, was published October 2010. Cress’s book , Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, Jones and Bartlett, is the bible of geriatric care management and is out out in a third edition in February 2011 .Her book Care Managers, Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett,2008 is one of the few major books on the aging family. Ms. Cress is the founder of GCM Consult ,working with small and national who want to add or launch GCM businesses. She is on the faculty at the University of Florida in their on line master’s in geriatric care management -GCM . She has taught geriatric care management at San Francisco State University , UC Berkeley and teaches at Cabrillo College and San Mateo College. She was founder and director of Cresscare, a GCM business, for 25 years.
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